By: Francis Dower
Words possess magic power over us. Words of order, words of a sentence, words you use in your essay. They make all the difference in our life. That is why we should devote enough attention to the words we say to each other. Being polite, saying compliments to surrounding people gives fruit in the form of constructive and pleasant interaction with others.
For people words are probably the main way or form to express themselves and to interact with other people, which is of vital importance. We can express sorrow or joy, gratitude or disrespect and other feelings via words. No wonder that words turn into a powerful instrument. Words are empowered when we articulate them and provide with specific sense. What we say may lead to more serious consequences than what we do, in fact. As the saying goes, “Words can make a deeper scar than silence can heal”.
From this stand we can see that we should be very thoughtful and careful when speaking in order to stay accurate and tactful. Many people, however, lack communication skills and they even try to search for communication skills tips which are in fact many in the Internet, in multiple books of various psychologists, writers, etc. Different sources point often to similar aspects. They claim that each of us should first of all demonstrate proper upbringing and be extremely polite, using all polite clichés and being very tolerant. In one essay it was written that “proper upbringing may sometimes irritate, but that’s only because one feels he lacks it so much”. That’s true. At the same time, politeness should not hide your personality but rather give way to it. The same is with your verbal communication. Anyone should be gracious and sincere altogether. Besides, mentioned sources are almost unanimous in that people like to hear compliments, and that means that we should practice saying them. To say a really nice compliment you should find some specific trait about person and put it into the form of compliment. You should be very attentive, because every small detail of some person when noted by you and mentioned will bring pleasure to that person. There are a lot of techniques on how to make the best compliment. Actually, a full-fledged coursework can be written about this aspect of communication. But there is one aspect that can hardly have instructions to follow, for it is very natural. This is sincerity. You can’t learn or teach sincerity. Your sincerity should go from within. When it is so, you will be accepted by most people and what you say will be adequately accepted as well. Thus, for example, the best compliment is the one which is sincere. If you really like something about the person, go ahead to tell that. However, you should think whether what you say doesn’t touch that person too much. Once again, words are really powerful instruments and even what you say with the best intentions may turn to hurt person.
So, combination of politeness, sincerity and tactfulness is what makes you a good person to communicate with and this also makes the power of your words be used in the best way. For this reason try to remember the discussed tips or, which is even greater
, give way your personal style of communication.
